JabberJuls

Wow… to my surprise my sibling honestly believes its OK for her to gossip lies about me to my siblings and mother, hold hidden bitterness and jealousy against me which a few crept out at the funeral, and yet feels I’m under bondage of sin and must surrender to the Lord fully. LOL

BEWARE OF CHRISTIANS LIKE THIS
This paragraph is the perfect example of a Christian that feels they are Holier than anyone or at least me anyway. She doesn’t even know me (She knows my siblings and Mother tho LOL) and yet has made this judgment against me. Scary to know she really believes this is a way to keep peace and unity. Good try, but its time to read it back to yourself Robin and take your advice as well. I’m praying for you to see the Truth too.
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Merry Christmas to all and
to all a goodnight.

Beware of & Stay away from Fake people that have two faces. If you discover some, run before they torture the life out of you with their lies & perspectives

BE REAL- what you see is what you get with no mind games kind of person.

Life is too short to pretend you are family when you aren’t.
Accept the truth and move on.

If you are lucky enough to have real people in your life, treasure them and cherish every moment you are blessed with.

Dad I love you and thank you for blessing me by being real. Jesus I’m hanging onto you for dear life and you alone. Help our families. In Jesus name I ask, amen.

It’s funny how my siblings have this perception that I hold hatred against someone when I don’t. What I do hate is their manipulation of the truth–even God hates that! They clearly don’t know me.

Are they Judging Me? LOL just something my siblings tell everyone not to do to them. God knows my heart & what I saw & the choice I’ve made to stay away from further happenings. Is it so hard to respect my choice too? I’ve respected yours to go on as if nothing happened. I believed I am actually a blood sister the last I knew–does that count for anything? No you say. Ok.

Its Just like this…when you discover places not safe to walk in your neighborhood, you don’t walk that way. It is to avoid any problems for yourself or others. Is that hatred? Not at all–it’s called being smart.

There is a difference between hatred & choosing not to be around someone.
Just because my siblings can’t understand that concept they slap on my mom this nonsense trip that I’m full of hatred. We all choose to believe what we want so i’ll respect your belief and expect you to respect mine.

So why is your perception the only way? Hmmm to isolate me (a sister) and show hatred against me. So who has hatred here?

Whatever… God knows my heart not you.

Proverbs 10:18 (New Living Translation)
18 Hiding hatred makes you a liar;
slandering others makes you a fool.

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I read this verse today in my daily reading and it hit home for me. Pretty much sums up my situation I’m facing from my brothers and sisters in a nutshell. Telling me after the funeral how they’ve resented Dad’s love for me all my life and we never had a true relationship–I feel They’ve hidden hatred against me in their heart’s for so long. Guess I was the only one living a Fantasy that I had brothers & sisters. They’re good–to smile and hug me and pretend they cared when around me, but hidden inside is pure hatred. I feel sorry for them living that way. I believed our love and relationship to be real, so to face this new reality of theirs is Mind-shattering. My sister Robin feels its her obligation to tell the siblings I’m always a problem (slandering me)–heard her myself as she turned to family right in front of my face at the funeral–instead of seeing me as a sister loving mom and honoring her wishes. Just because I wanted to verify mom’s true wishes about an issue that affected my family, I’m now an outsider to the siblings and mother too backing the craziness. Crazy stuff.

*sharing my shattered heart trying to understand in love. now I understand why the Lord will let go of us and allow us to turn to a reprobate heart– if we reject him. times like these you have to let go if all people see is evil from you when its love and can’t see the good that is honestly in you–what choice do you have? Let Go! Lord, I give this issue to you again. Forgive me for anything I’ve done and I forgive them for not realizing what they are doing.

Well, after seeing my mother and siblings turn on me and reject me for crazy reasons, I’ve started wondering what my other half sister is like. Being so little when she was around, I really never knew her. Kimberly Bowman (Married name unknown) who are you? I now wonder why Mom refused to let you know Dad died. Why would she hurt so much if you were there? Was Mom jealous of Dad’s love for you too? After discovering this about her now, I truly question her motives with you.

If you are out there Kimberly, I would love to meet you. If anything to just talk about Dad. Feel free to email me at juls2me@yahoo.com. I wish I could’ve gotten to know you.

Dad I miss you! Thank you for loving me so much that I know without a doubt Jesus loves me even more, which astounds me to realize there is possibly more.

Jesus I don’t understand what’s happening with misplaced blame & hatred towards me, but I know you do. Realizing I’m not wanted and looked at as being horrible for ensuring Mom’s wishes is heart breaking. Realizing the hatred behind the smiles & hugs is like a knife to my throat. Lord forgive me for anything I may have done unknowingly to cause hurt to them.

I thank you for the blessing of knowing how great your love is from my earthly Dad and I hold on to that to go on living each day the best I can handling situations with love the best I know how.

One saying of deep wisdom my brother told my mother years back and she shared with me was, “You can’t make someone love You.”

These words at one point in time hurt mom deeply for years hearing her own son say them to her. We all naturally believe the family we are born into just loves you no matter what you do. Most people believe being family attaches an invisible string to each other so you are never alone or isolated. Well, that’s how God intends family to be, but when jealousy, hatred, and other nonsense gets in the way–these words are the comforting truth. You can’t make anyone On this earth Love You.
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I think my siblings and mom went insane.
Wow… I lose my Father to discover my siblings and mother resent the love my father had for me. Don’t understand why all these years they pretended to care about me and yet hated my guts.

I’m sorry my Fathers love for me caused all you siblings such pain. I pray you all are able to unite as you so desire with me out of this family.
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Dad’s viewing was December 6, 2009 from 5 – 9pm. My sisters, brothers, and I were not sure what to do about flowers and were blessed to see all the love gifts of flowers that came in from all the family and friends that loved Dad. Many family and friends showed and blessed our family tonight. Thank you to all!

Richard Bowman’s funeral service will be held today December 7, 2009 at Glen Abbey’s Chapel of Roses, Bonita CA at 1pm. Commitment service to follow at crypt-sid and Family reception at local church afterwards. It’s already raining today. Why is it– that it always rains when sad things happen?

Obituary:
RICHARD ALLEN BOWMAN
CHULA VISTA, CA

Richard A. Bowman, 73, a 35 year resident of Chula Vista since 1974, Died December 1, 2009, at residence, Chula Vista. He was born July 10, 1936, in Detroit, MI, a son of the late Ulmont James Bowman and Violet Mary Bowman.
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He is survived by his wife, Nancy Jean Bowman; daughters: Kimberly (Maiden name: Bowman) unknown location, Robin Stokes of Chula Vista, Mrs. Wendy Johnson of Casper, WY, Mrs. Russell (Julie) Wittmann of Lakeside, CA; sons: David Bowman of Casper, WY, Mark Bowman of Phoenix, AZ; brothers: Robert Bowman and Garry Bowman; sisters: Delores Sweany and Linda Perna; 12 grandchildren, one step- granddaughter, step- great granddaughter, nieces, nephews, and cousins. Graduated from San Diego State University with a degree in Criminal Justice Administration. He served four years in the U.S. Army with highest rank E-5, Fifteen years in the Detroit Police Department as a Police Officer for five years and a Juvenile Detective for ten years, Retired on March 1, 2001 from the San Diego Unified School District Police Department as a Detective after 27 years. Total service in Police Services was 42 years.

Other articles to read regarding Mom & Dad:
http://jabberjuls.com/2006/12/01/living-each-day-as-if-its-your-last/

http://jabberjuls.com/2006/05/24/mom-dad-are-the-best/

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